"Matha, pitha, guru, dhaivam" (Mother, father, teacher, God)
Every Indian child must have grown up hearing this Sanskrit phrase. As children, we are taught to love and respect our mother, father, teacher, and God. So when our children grow up with such values, how much should we give back as parents? What life lessons should a parent adopt to be worthy of that love and respect?
Parenthood is a journey that is filled with both joys and challenges. On the one hand, it is a beautiful experience that brings immense joy and fulfillment to one's life, but on the other hand, it can be a challenging experience that can test one's patience and resilience.
The Joys of Parenthood
The unconditional love that you receive from your children
The pride and satisfaction of watching them grow and develop into their own unique individual
The joy of experiencing life through their eyes.
Parenthood is also an opportunity to create lasting memories with your children and to develop a deep and meaningful bond with them that lasts a lifetime.
Parenting challenges
One of the biggest challenges is the lack of sleep and personal time that parents often experience.
Raising children is a full-time job and it can be exhausting both physically and emotionally.
Additionally, it can be difficult to balance the demands of parenthood with other aspects of life such as work, relationships, and personal goals.
Another challenge of parenthood is the constant worry that parents experience for their children's safety and well-being.
From the moment a child is born, parents become responsible for their every need and it can be overwhelming at times.
There are also the challenges of dealing with behavioral issues, discipline, and the difficult conversations that parents must have with their children as they grow older.
Despite these challenges, the joys of parenthood far outweigh the challenges. Parenthood is an opportunity to experience the purest form of love and to watch your children grow and thrive. It is a journey that is filled with ups and downs, but one that is ultimately rewarding and fulfilling.
Tips for Enjoying Parenthood to the Fullest
1. Live in your present.
It is quite common for young parents to have burnout. You feel like running away. You keep wondering when you will get a break or when will you be finally free from all these responsibilities. I have been there and sometimes such thoughts creep in even now. But I try to analyze what's going wrong and try my best to make things better. My advice to young parents is to live in the present. Stop worrying about the past or future. Whatever problems you are going through, remember that "This too shall pass.
2. Importance of self-care.
When you are too involved in taking care of your children, self-care might take a back seat. It is important that you should remain healthy and happy to take care of your child without hassles. So take care of your health. Ensure that you sleep well, eat right, and get some exercise. It helps to lift your mood.
3. Cherish the little moments in life.
Children will grow quickly. Time will fly. So try to cherish all the
moments with your children. Because one day when they move out of your life, you should not feel that you are of no purpose anymore, rather you should have a pool of memories to embrace as they embark on their journeys.
4. Don't be too hard on life.
We should be more considerate. Children should not be subject to our meltdowns. Therefore it is essential to take a step back and make some time for yourself to sort it out. Don't hesitate to seek help from your near and dear ones. Maybe it is just a temporary phase for you.
When the child is subject to sudden emotional outbursts it might negatively impact your child's life. Eventually, the child will learn to express Similarly. The parent must remain calm and composed in front of the child. Physically punishing or mentally abusing the child for your wrongdoings should be avoided.
5. Take corrective actions.
Never show your anger to children for issues they are not even aware of. If it happens unintentionally, apologize to your kid and try to explain what went wrong with you. Ensure that your child is not hurt. It also helps in teaching your child how you should respond when such things happen. We must confront the beast and tame it instead of hiding or fleeing..
6. Enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
Do not sacrifice it for others. It is required for you to remain sane. Maybe it could be some time alone on your couch with a cup of coffee, A warm bath, some music, a visit to the saloon, or visiting friends or your favorite shopping spot. Just do it.
7. Enjoy the little things.
Sharing a snuggle and listening to your children's giggles is like therapy. Marvel the beauty of a child's thoughts. It's so innocent and thought-provoking.
8. Tame your thoughts.
An idle mind is a devil's workshop. If you are constantly having negative thoughts, be engaged in some activities. It's human to revisit your memories constantly. Thoughts come out of the blue and happen for no reason. So when you are revisited by the sad or tragic memories, remember that you have made it this far. You are still standing despite all odds. So be proud of yourself. the paths they tread make the withered stones the most rounded pebbles. Whenever your happy memories visit you, be grateful for all the blessings, because just a thought about it brings you immense happiness, a smile on your face that could light the whole room.
9. Be grateful.
Try to write a journal about at least 1 thing that made your day better. And very soon you will start to count your blessings in life. Never look into your neighbor's plate and envy. Everyone is fighting their own battles and you don't know what that person has gone through to reach there. So please don't judge others based on your observations. There are always 2 sides to a coin.
10. Get rid of your guilt and seek help.
If you are guilty of missing out on your career, get back to work as soon as possible because if you don't, you might show your frustration on your children and they may feel that you are blaming them for not being able to go to work. If you are someone who is okay with taking a break from your career, I would advise you to take up some hobbies or build your skills until you get back to work. Implement these tips into your life to enjoy your parenthood to the fullest.
Overcoming Guilt: Effective Strategies to Move Forward
When it comes to parenting, feelings of guilt can be quite common. It's important to address and overcome these feelings to ensure a healthy and positive relationship with your children. Here are some effective strategies for overcoming guilt in parenting:
When your kids get sick, seek support instead of trying to do everything by yourself. See a doctor before it gets worse.
It is important to plan your finances as medical emergencies can arise anytime.
If you are having financial problems, speak openly with your children about money. They should be aware of your financial problems. It will help them to spend money wisely and will teach them the importance of planning and saving.
Spouses might miss out on personal time when children enter the scene. So seek support from your family or friends. Make a deliberate attempt to go on dates at least once in 2 weeks. Get your children to bed early so that you can have some quality time with your partner. When you are happy within, you will be able to behave better with your kids.
Even after doing everything, you still might feel bad about it, so seek help from a medical practitioner.
I am nearing 40 and a mother of 3 children. My parents still worry about me. They always enquire about my well-being. I will also do the same when my kids grow up. Parenting never ends. You are a parent till you die. So don't rush it. Try to enjoy your parenthood.
HAPPY PARENTING 😊
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